I come by this honestly if that's any sort of excuse. My family (on my Dads side) comes from a long line of procrastinators, most of which never finished anything they started. That, coupled in part with boredom, and the realization that no one was listening anyway gave me pause to give up........
There's a reason for giving up though. It seems that no matter how badly you bitch about something that nothing changes anyway. No one is willing to take responsibility for their actions and no matter what happens, whatever it is, its someone else's fault. When did we turn into a nation of feckless people or more importantly which generation is at fault.
Perhaps its all part of the me generation. This is the generation that grew up under someone elses rules because both mommy and daddy had to work to make ends meet. In reality mommy and daddy both didn't have to work to make ends meet, they just had to work to keep up with the joneses. If mommy and daddy couldn't have the big house in the burbs, with two cars and all the toys and afford to go on a good long vacation in the summer and perhaps a week away from the snow in February then they were failures and really should have just placed themselves on an ice floe and left. That's what we have become. Don't think about the fact that perhaps around 60-85% of one of their incomes would go to child care expenses so they could both have "careers". That insignificant fact wouldn't play into the fact that it probably would have been cheaper in the long run if one of them stayed home and actually raised their little brat kids. I cant really blame the parents for their little brat kids though seeing as someone else was instilling values in them instead of their parents. I can though blame the parents reaction to little Johnny throwing a hissy fit in the mall food court when they begin to feed him enough pharmaceuticals to give Keith Richards a remote high. Stop drugging your kids and let them play outside, give them rules to live by that don't include the phrase "me first" and the world will be a much better place.
I am an old dinosaur but in the end still only a child of the 70's. My wife and I decided a long time ago that one of us would take one for the team and stay at home to raise the kids. She took one for the team and gave up everything she wanted to be in order that our children would have a stable secure home life with boundaries attached and that they wouldn't be raised by a virtual stranger at some puppy mill of a daycare center. You know what? It worked. We have two daughters who any parent would be proud to call their own. Both grown up and gone now onto their own lives but both professional ladies with their heads screwed on right. and its all because of my wife giving up her aspirations to do that. The nature of my work had me away from home a lot and so she raised the kids, and did a fantastic job of it. Now I am about to retire after 36 years in the same job and she is coming into her own. She cant wait for my retirement so that we can start the next phase of our life together which includes her reaching (finally) her dreams and goals. God knows she's waited long enough. There's a lot going wrong in the world today, but if you raise your kids right, give them values and boundaries and instill in them a sense of responsibility, they will do you proud. I have my missus to thank for that.
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